Dame Products "Fin" Vibrator Product Review: A vibrator for post-pelvic pain solo sex

Dame Products "Fin" Vibrator Product Review: A vibrator for post-pelvic pain solo sex

Some women might fear that self-stimulation could replicate the pain they've so frequently experienced with sex. While sex shops are filled with cylindrical vibrators and toys, there aren't many options for female shoppers seeking a decidedly non-penis-evoking experience.

Enter: Dame Products' Fin vibrator.

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SEX: my candidate for 'word of the year' in 2017

SEX: my candidate for 'word of the year' in 2017

Sex proved a bit tricky to untangle. I looked it up in every dictionary in the house, but dictionaries are surprisingly and disappointingly silent on this point.  Maybe the anti-sex-ed lobby is in bed with Merriam-Webster, or maybe there are fears that sexing up (definition below) the dictionary would cause the mass removal of dictionaries from American family rooms and classrooms.  Even today, 20 years later, Dictionary.com provides a stunningly unhelpful definition.

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A 5-point plan for getting help with your 'down there' health

A 5-point plan for getting help with your 'down there' health

So you have pain with sex, or you leak urine when you sneeze, or you feel a bulge in your vagina, or you have chronic constipation or any other “down there” health concern.  Where do you begin?  Having suffered from pelvic pain and an assortment of related health issues for years, these are my suggestions for finding the right provider, getting the help you need, and speaking candidly about tough issues.

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Sex after Pelvic Pain

Sex after Pelvic Pain

Sex after pelvic pain is f*#&ing scary (no pun intended). Nevertheless, I somehow DID find the courage to hop back in the sack, and I’m really glad that I did.  This time, it didn’t feel like my PT’s voice was in my head the whole time, narrating where my knee should go, whether my pillow was at the right height, and whether I should reapply my Lidocaine.

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